Fred,
What document are you looking at with those page #s?
There is a RC4 relay in the brake light circuit but it feeds all brake lights. RC4 indicates its in the rear cap, probably in the rear bay with the other fuses, relays, etc. If it failed you would not have any brake lights.
There is an "Aux Brake Controller" fuse, F10, on the front cap PC board. May pay to check it if you haven't already.
On my 07 Contessa the Brake light signal in the coach tow connector was at the 7 O'clock position as you looked at the connector. The signal came from the right brake light. You may want to trace that wire to see if it is tied into the brake light circuit, most probably to the rear brake light wiring.
If you can ID the pin in the Toad connector that feeds the toad brake lights/controller, you will know for sure which in the RV connector has the toad brake light signal.