Dick,
Changing the engagement trigger for the Jake brake is very doable on your coach, however I think that it requires a wiring change in the left front electrical bay to accomplish it on your model coach. It is a fairly easy wiring change, however if the Cat dealer is not familiar with the way the coach is wired, it might get expensive to pay for their learning curve.
The Allison default gear with the Jake brake is in the Allison programming, and I do not think that all Cat dealers can reprogram the Allison. So you may want to call the dealer first to see if it will be necessary to see an Allison dealer for this programming change.
As for the issue of what gear to set as the default gear, I very strongly prefer 5th or 6th. The use of fourth or lower as the default will remove the option of using the Jake as a speed control on long down hill slopes where you can maintain the speed limit with only slight engine braking. I use 5th in my coach as the default, and there is no way that I would go to fourth as the default because it gives to much braking for so many situations that you loose the use of the Jake in situations where only slight speed control is needed.
Gerald