We have a door problem that is similar in that the door can become hard to open, but is manageable if the door is not closed too hard. It appears our door has three "catch points." If I gently push it closed to its first catch point, then a child could pull the latch and open the door. Also, in this first catch point the door appears to be in a slightly open position, say, 1/4 inch from flush with the side wall of the coach. If I push the door closed to the second catch point, then the door is closed flush with the side wall and the latch is significantly more difficult to pull to open the door... but still manageable enough for Leslie to open the door. If the door is closed "with much flourish," as you aptly described it, to its third catch point, then Leslie is not able to open the door. I can open the door only by pushing hard on the door with one hand and pulling the latch with the other hand.
One good thing is that when we are inside the coach and close the door firmly to that third catch point, then the door does not whistle much when driving down the highway. And yet even if closed firmly, then the door seems to open okay from the interior latch. I am guessing this could be because pulling on the interior latch also pulls the door towards a closed position taking some strain off the door catches.
Our "fix" is for me to constantly remind Leslie to not slam the door closed. lol