Many here use Blue Ox or Air Force tow systems, Dan. But many others, like me, swear by Roadmaster. Adding a hitch bar, adapters for your Jeep and the attendant connection kits, plus accessories that can protect against several issues inherent to towing, including devices that guard against toad damage from rocks, etc., can get pretty spendy. Adding an auxiliary brake to the Jeep costs a bit also, but is essential especially in your case. I use Roadmaster's Brakemaster, but they've developed a newer system recently that's intriguing due to its relatively simple installation, small innocuous presence, and minimal if non-existent prep for each tow: Invisibrake.
BCS isn't into the towing side of things, as you've discovered. If you are prepared to spend the money on a reliable, complete, and well-supported tow system, I recommend that if possible after BCS is done, you take coach and Jeep up to Vancouver, WASHINGTON, to Roadmaster's headquarters and let them configure everything specific to your needs, and be done with it. Check their website for preliminary info. http://roadmasterinc.com/index.php
After having a combination of Camping World and BCS install our current setup in 2006, I later took the car to Roadmaster for some tweaking of installation missteps. A couple years later I took the entire combo to them for a skid roller and proper drop bar, and both times they charged nothing for their labor to help out, and I got peace of mind my setup was optimized and safe. The Falcon All-terrain towbar rods got sticky after several years of non-use and outdoor storage on the coach; Roadmaster has cheerfully asked me to bring it across the river to them so they can take care of it for me, no problem, no charge.
I really like Roadmaster, as you can tell, and that's my 2 cents, but no matter which brand you decide on, it's gonna take a lot more cash than that, so be ready. You can shop around for best price and likely will beat Roadmaster's, but not their coach/Jeep configuration expertise, installation quality, or customer service. And they're only about 150 miles from BCS.
Joel