Hi Paul,
The valance lights in the bedroom, as well as the ones in the living room are indeed 12v rope lights. In the bedroom if you stand up on a short stool at the end of the bed and look between the ceiling and the top of the valance you will see two latches, one at each end of the valance. The latches are really more of a hooked fitting and generally there is a screw that has been put in to prevent them from coming apart during a drive. Remove the screws and have someone at each end of the valance lift slightly and push slightly towards the head of the bed and the hooks should come apart. The other side of the valance is hinged so it will just swing down and stay. The rope lights are in a groove in the valance. A topic search on the forum will take you to an article where one of our members changed the lights to and LED strip. By the way, while you have the valance down, this is how to access the filter for the rear A/C unit which should be cleaned every year or two.
We have the same problem with the porch light. We haven't changed to LED yet but yes there are direct replacements. If you Google 12v LED lamp replacements just look for the proper base and that's the one.