Doug,
I bench tested my relay and it is fine, low contact resistance so that is not coming into play. Our experience is the same with the blown fuse issue.
Tell you what I plan on doing, given it is quite simple, and I think handy. I had added a piece of diamond plate aluminum on the left side of the engine compartment and mounted an extra overflow expansion jug for extra capacity on the left side. My wiring harness to the snap thermostat comes right next to that plate area down a vertical support. I should get the adjustable snap thermostat today.
I am going to make a little wiring harness, needs to be just a foot long or so, mount two switches on the diamond plate. One switch will be in parallel to the existing snap thermostat to bypass it, and the other switch will be in parallel but have the adjustable snap thermostat in series with it using some plug male and female connectors.
This will allow the existing hi temp thermostat to be used or switch in the adjustable snap thermostat at a lower setting if preferred, the second switch can be used to test the fan system manually or to turn the system on if desired. I decided to make the second thermostat plug-able so I can vary the mount location if need be to get the desired result.
Funny if all of us are sweating in the bedroom and riding around without an operational fan system due to a fuse :-) May still need some mods if the fuse keeps blowing...
Later Ed