Ron,
No idea why flashers started when you hardwired from brake light to 7 pin brake connection. Sounds like you went to wrong wire. Suggest you first apply 12v to the 7 pin brake connection to verify it drives brake lights on toad. If OK, apply brakes (use a helper or a 2x4 to hold brake pedal down) and use a meter or light probe to verify the RV brake wire. Hooking up to this wire should solve your problem,
Steve