Dick,
I think you are asking how others do it, so I will offer my version.
As Gerald said, habits vary. After 90,000 miles my habit is to leave the exhaust brake off, leave the shift pad alone and set the cruise control to 60. At 60, my rig will get to 6th gear and stay there, except for hills. Leaving the shift pad alone with cruise on means the engine, transmission and cruise control computers will do the mechanical work while I do the "defensive driving". I like to keep my eyes on the traffic, rather than the tach.
When I remember, I do select the Economy mode, but I can't prove it saves any money. I think that if this transmission were in an application where most of the driving was in town with lots of shifting, it would make a difference. In a motorhome where we are mostly on the highway at cruise speeds the transmission is pretty much "stuck" in the same gear until we climb a hill.
Regarding exhaust brake use, my habit is to leave it completely off most of the time because I use the cruise control. Going down hills is a different story! My goal is to use the exhaust brake in a way where I don't use the service (or foot) brake at all. On long hills I like to reserve the foot brake for emergency stops. I don't want them hot from use. So, at the top of a typical 6% freeway grade I turn on the exhaust brake which releases the cruise. On mine, the Allison is programmed to try to reach 2nd. Of course, it won't but it will downshift to something that will slow it some. At the crest of the steep part I want to be at about 47 mph where my Allison will shift to a gear (3rd or 4th?) that puts the engine at about 2500 rpm. The braking effect is very good and I can go down a long hill without using the service brakes except for minor short taps if the RPM climbs. On my coach, with a Cummins, the Allison does not up shift until it goes over 2700 rpm.
I've never wanted to cruise below 60 mph. I thought it was important to cruise at a speed that would get the Allison to 6th gear. On my last trip, I tried 55 and never got to 6th gear. The purpose was to see what differences were in fuel mileage. Using the Aladdin as a reference, I got over 9 mpg. The Aladdin says my lifetime average is 8.0. At $4 per gallon, the difference may be enough for me to never see 6th gear again!