Dick,
As long as you have some pressure then you can add slowly to the low side with the can in the upright position until the compressor kicks on. You should see the pressure slowly rise on the gauge. If the pressure is above, or rises above approximately 30 lbs while adding R134A and the compressor is not on it is likely that you have some electrical issue that will have to be sorted out.
If you are using a standard set of gauges, purge the yellow hose at the gauge by loosening the coupling while the can is upside down, and the can valve slightly open until you see 134A vapor emerge and then tighten the hose fitting. That purges air so that it is not pushed into the RV system. As far as the shorter hose recharge kits, the short hose is not much to worry about air wise. Try and get one with numbers on the gauge. If your compressor is not running due to low pressure I would have on hand 36 to 48 oz or 3-4 of the standard size 12oz cans.
This article is a good overview.
http://www.rvtechmag.com/tech/51_r134.phpThe fully charged pressure with low and high sides equalized (1 hour after system is turned off or next day is better to get the temperatures of the system to a common ambient temp) is in this article. Fully charged is the pressure in the table for your current ambient as measured at the condenser face. Hope this helps.
Later Ed