I found that sometimes - not always, but SOMETIMES - I could get the diesel nozzle to catch on the slowest auto-fill notch if I turned (twisted) the nozzle so that it pointed forward and down at about a 45 degree angle. It also helped when I pulled the nozzle out a few inches such that the nozzle wasn't all the way down into the hole. Many times I could get the nozzle to catch on the notch to fill hands free, but sometimes I had to hold the nozzle at that 45 degree angle because it would not hold at the angle on its own. Tinker around with it and you might get it to fill hands free, but I never got to far away from it. I have rarely been able to get a high volume nozzle to fill to full without babysitting it.
I see we're at war again, or still, or... whatever.